Or perhaps you could balance witticism with bouts of shyness. You could, for instance, appear all innocent-eyed, but then throw out a flirty look. You should try to come across as enigmatic so that your target thinks you’re deep and thoughtful. We’re all fascinated by people who are hard to figure out – the unfathomable, intriguing types. So what’s the best way to capture someone’s attention and lodge yourself in her mind, making it impossible for her to think of anything else?įirst, you’ve got to stimulate your target with your appearance or your actions. Seduction is in its essence a psychological game. It was the intrigued duchess who confessed her infatuation to him first – and it wasn’t just the duke she desired, but a marriage as well!Īn effective seducer is spider-like, building a strong and sticky – and barely noticeable – web. He was careful not to appear too interested too soon. Perhaps their friendship could become something more? How could the duke not be interested in one of the most beautiful and noble women in France? All he did was play the part of the friend and keep close by. Before too long, he became her confidant. Nonetheless, after a few tête-à-têtes, the duchess began to enjoy his company. When the duchess first met the duke, she found herself rather enamored with the notorious lady-killing Lothario.īut during later chance encounters in court, the duke appeared quite blasé. In fact, that's exactly how the Duke de Lauzun worked his magic on the Duchesse de Montpensier while at Louis XIV’s court. Try to make an impression of neutrality: you should make yourself noticeable, but you needn’t approach the target. With seduction, it’s always best to let your target come to you, under the misapprehension that she is the one making the first move.

You’ll be more successful if you don’t reveal your hand too soon.

If you approach at wholehearted bound, you’re going to appear desperately insecure. Early on, you shouldn’t put your cards on the table and tell your target exactly what you want. The first lesson of seduction is not to be overeager. The approach must be oblique, such as to spark the target’s imagination in an advantageous way.

The true seducer knows that life can be pretty humdrum, an awareness that allows the seducer, through finesse and creativity, to inflame the target’s fantasies and desire.

The art of seduction by robert greene